Aku & Mereka: Nasihat dari yg tua~ (",)

I luv to have conversation with the elders...lebih2 lagi with my mum,opah and makcik2 aku...baru2 ni timbul SATU topik hangat dalam keluarga kami iaitu JODOH...semenjak umo aku da masuk 20 thun ni mak always bukak topik ni...tp she was not forcing me to get married but she said..

"just frenz with EVERYONE...even you have a boyfriend let friends with others too...sbb he just your boyfriend not husband...jangan nak SETIA MEMBABI BUTA....awk sepatutnya dengar cakap SUAMI bukan cakap BOYFRIEND...sbb suami lebih berhak ke atas awk sedangkan boyfriend, they just like a friend to you...plus if you have a lot of friends then u can choose the best to be your husband...bcuz lelaki yang jadi suami tu akan hidup bersama ngan awk.."

Pastu dia ckp lagi "when you have someone that you thing that he is the best for you but somehow dia ade sedikit berlawanan ngan attitude kita...just accept him...sebab ALLAH memg mnjadikan pasangan kita berlawanan ngan sifat kita...YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE BUT DONT BE TOO CHOOSY...there is no such MR.PERFECT or MR.RIGHT...even awak pon  NOT PERFECT TOO...the most important TOLERATE...sbb tolerate ni la mak boleh hidup ngan abah for 14 years...tp he never appreciate it...thats why we have to end it...so you should find the BEST ok???" and I said " I will~"

Just now, waktu tolong opah kemas sekitar umah opah cakap "kalo ade orang laki nak kat kita, senonoh perangainye, hormat orang tua~trima jela....kalo dia penoreh getah pon atau keje dia lagi rendah dari kita trima je lah....mane tau bile da bersama ngan kita rezeki bertambah..."

My ATEH gave me this few years ago...luv this so much....

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve

then heck no, you can’t "be friends."

A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself

a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.

He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant,

Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has

more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.

He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man.

Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about

baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists

of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re

always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.